What is the definition of possession? Something that you own or are carrying with you. Why does possession have such a powerful hold on us? Let us examine why possession has its tentacles wrapped around us. Is our love possessive for our child, partner, parent, and pet? Can we own an individual? Is it healthy to be possessive?
Where does it lead to? Jealousy, and where does it arise from.
- Being insecure or having a poor self-image?
- Fearing abandonment or betrayal.
- Feeling intense possessiveness or a desire for control.
- Having a misguided sense of ownership over a partner.
- Having unrealistic expectations about relationships in general.
Possessiveness arises from feelings of insecurity, fear, anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness, and disgust. It takes hold of us and brings out the worst in us.
How do we handle this aspect of our nature? Let us examine what leads to this? Who are the culprits?
Our thoughts, fears and doubts?
How does one change oneself? It is difficult and it is only possible if one can follow a routine, a sadhana. The practice is Thought Examination. Close eyes; visualize the breath going in and out of both nostrils. Do it 54 times, counting backwards. Make no errors in the counting. Now concentrate on the space in front of eyebrow center. This space is the center for one’s past, present and future memories. Gaze deeply and see what is there. One may see colors, endless jumble of thoughts or a void. No engagement. One is a silent witness. Stay with the sadhana for ten minutes. Daily practice will lead to reduction of doubts and fears.
Osho, “Possessiveness destroys love and love should not be possessed because that again destroys one’s love.”
Swami Sivananda’s remedy for chasing away restlessness and worldly thoughts, chanting AUM loudly twelve times. Then repeat AUM, mentally with a mala, 108 times.
Aim Hrim Klim